for a spanking that I earned.
This morning Cael got word of the fact that I had overslept and been late to class. I actually hadn't been planning on explicitly telling him, however, it had come up in conversation. I didn't think bringing it up was going to earn me a spanking. I was one wrong chica!
I'm not sure if my alarm clock failed to sound or if I just slept through it, but either way, I was late to my early-morning class. This is so unlike me. I've never missed a class or been late in all of college and I'm a second-semester senior! In fact, I even went to class when I had a concussion because I did not want to miss, that's how serious I am about school. So, it begs the question, should spanking be used as a deterrent or as a punishment, or both? This was a once-in-a-blue-moon occasion; it is not as if I prioritize sleep over school, and I'm generally great about jumping out of bed when the alarm sounds. Getting a spanking is not going to "fix" any problem of mine because this is not a regular occurrence; it was just a slip-up and wouldn't be happening again whether or not I'm spanked.
I don't have set rules, so technically I did not break any rules. However, I do want to be perfect and I have told this to Cael. Any minor slip-up could result in punishment, and I know this. So, it is Cael's choice. I challenged him a little but I tried not to fight too much because I want to be supportive of his decisions. And trust me, I have plenty of wonderful arguments, but I'm biting my tongue in hopes that they won't escape!
He said he'd go easy on me because he was part of the reason I had been up so late; he made me stay up to watch the news. I appreciate the leniency, as staying up late has never been an excuse for arriving late to class before.
Sooooo, now I'm waiting until tonight when he takes care of it. I don't like waiting and I haven't really had to do it in the past. It's not actually the spanking itself I dread, he said he'd go easy and gosh knows I've had it pretty harsh in the past! The tone of the scene is what I'm nervous for. While I really don't want this, and just wish I had gotten up on time this morning, I do like that he's stepping up, and I wouldn't have it any other way.
I'll let you all know how it goes, hopefully it's short enough that there is not too much to tell ;)
To answer your question as to whether spanking should be a punishment or a deterrent, I'd have to say that it could be either or both. Perhaps this is something you should to discuss with Cael, ask him why he feels that you should be spanked. It's interesting because sometimes when I've thought a spanking wasn't fair, when Michael has explained why he felt otherwise he's looking at it in a way that I hadn't been myself. Unfortunately this makes it hard to argue or try to get out of it, but I'm glad that he thinks these things through and it isn't just because he wants to. Actually, he never wants to punish me...spank me, yes...but he doesn't like punishment sessions...me either! I hope it goes as well as can be expected for you tonight!
ReplyDeleteThanks for the advice, Grace! I did ask him why he was punishing me and it was quite simpler than I had thought: I don't mess up very often, so, he took this as an opportunity to show his dominance and punish me on something I did wrong. Although I had never arrived late to class before this, he said that he wants to give me a little reminder to make sure it stays that way.
ReplyDeleteIt's over now, he didn't spank too hard at all and it was fairly short. He doesn't enjoy punishing me either, and the punishments usually fit the crime. This was a small mistake and he admitted it was partially his fault for having kept me up late, so, he didn't think it warranted too hard of a spanking. I'm feeling better now. Thanks for your support :)
I'm glad you talked with him. His reply sounds very much like something Michael would say. I'm glad you're feeling better now. :)
ReplyDeleteSorry Riley, just read this. In the beginning of Dd, my husband would have punished but probably not real hard...as it wasn't a big deal. He would have done it more for consistency than anything else.
ReplyDeleteThese days, he probably wouldn't feel a need to for the reason you said, it's not a regular problem.
In the end it is up to them...glad he went easy on you.
Hey Susie, thanks for the support! :)
DeleteI think that's why Cael does it -- for the consistency. I do like that he's consistent; I'd prefer he follow through with a punishment I don't want, rather than say he'll give me one and then change his mind. So, I really can't complain!
Glad it went well? for you Riley :) I wouldn't have thought it a punishable offence in itself as it's so rare but his motivation for doing so is very reasonable. He's thinking things through and that is only a good thing :)
ReplyDeleteDee x
Lol at the question mark! Yep it went as well as such a thing could possibly go ;) I'm pretty sure he realized I didn't really need that much of a punishment over it either, he went as easy as he's ever gone before, I even got to keep my jeans on!
DeleteWaiting for a punishment/discipline spanking sucks.
ReplyDeletePunishment itself can be considered a deterrent. Who wants to be punished?? However, in many cases, it acts as a catharsis. As a physical release of the disappointment one, or both, parties can feel from what they consider a failure.
sarah
ps, you know it's not possible to be perfect? ;)
I agree that the two go hand-in-hand -- punishments and deterrents. However, what if I'm punished, but don't need a deterrent, then how is it classified? Ya know? I guess in a way whether I need a deterrent or not, a punishment will stick with me, subconsciously if nothing else.
ReplyDeleteI do know I can't actually be perfect! ;) But Cael and I want to get me as close as possible, within reason of course!
I don't handle waiting well at all. Not at all! For this reason most punishments are carried out fairly immediately.
ReplyDeleteGood job handling the wait so well. :) Hope it went well and wasn't too awful.
Waiting should just not be allowed! If he can't spank me then and there, he's missed his chance! ;) Oh wait, I don't think I get to make such decisions...
DeleteAnd thanks, it was manageable luckily!
waiting is horrible. that nervous sickly feeling in the pit of your stomach is jus not nice. Im glad its over with and he didnt go too hard on you. At the end of the day, with our without rules, its their decision if where how and why the spank. Its our job to submit to that even though at times that is far easier said than done.
ReplyDeleteGood job - both of you :)
love and hugs kiwi xxx
Yeah...that feeling...not cool! And you are right, it is their decision, not mine. For that reason, I chose not to fight it, but I sureee could have. I had plenty of wonderfully-crafted arguments. But it's good I didn't make a thing of it, he went so easy anyway, I've just got to remember he knows what he's doing!
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